...your past can trick you to think...
...I am bad...
...I am weak...
...I am unlovable...
...I am not in control...
...I don't deserve love...
...I am not good enough...
...I am a disappointment...
...I cannot make mistakes...
...I cannot trust my judgement...
...I am insignificant and unimportant...
...I have to be perfect to please everyone...
When your past affects how you're feeling it can make you believe things about yourself that aren't true. It can seem as though a tape recorder is stuck in a loop, bringing up feelings and emotions that don't always make sense, but are oddly familiar. It can seem like no one understands what you’re going through or, maybe, you don't understand what you’re going through. You might feel small or unimportant or that you're not really an adult...
...you might tell yourself...
...I am a good person but I feel like a bad person...
...people just put up with me, so they don't hurt my feelings...
...my relationships don't work out, it isn't supposed to be this hard...
...my parents were good people, I deserved to be punished, I was a bad kid...
...if I could only come out of my shell and be like other people...
...if people knew how I truly felt, they'd run...
These thoughts are sometimes the result of bad or traumatic memories. More often than not, though, they are a result of memories that seem harmless but have been impacted you for years without you even knowing. It can make it hard to control your emotions and mood. They can disrupt relationships and cause otherwise good relationships to not work out. It can make it hard to feel vulnerable or feel like you need to push people away at your own expense.
Maybe, you were bullied, abused drugs or alcohol, have experienced toxic relationships, or experienced traumatic events. Sometimes it can be caused by parents who seem like good people but shouldn't have been parents.
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